Growing up, we learn a lot from our families—often without realizing it. Back then, I’d hear my parents preach phrases like “family comes first” or “health is wealth.” As a kid, though, I wasn’t buying it. Honestly, I was more concerned with video games and the next cool TV show than contemplating family values. Looking back now as a husband and father of (soon-to-be) three girls, I realize they were right all along.
When we’re young, family feels more like a given than something to appreciate.
We don’t notice the sacrifices our parents made or how Grandma always found a way to make you smile even on a bad day. It’s not until life throws you a few curveballs—or you find yourself raising kids of your own—that you realize just how important family truly is.
Growing up, family gatherings sometimes felt like an obligation: showing up at Grandma’s making small talk with aunts and uncles, and surviving the occasional, awkward “Who are you dating now?” questions. But now, I see those moments differently. What I didn’t realize back then was how those chaotic Sunday dinners were teaching me about patience, unconditional love, and the value of connection.
The truth is, I’ve come to realize that no car, gadget, or luxury purchase will ever compare to the experiences we share as a family. Don’t get me wrong – I very much enjoy dreaming about my next big splurge. (I love watches, cars, and so much more) But Kristen is my grounding force. She’s quick to remind me that what matters most is not what we buy but the moments we create together.
Some of our best moments aren’t flashy.
They’re simple: taking the girls to the park, movie nights on the couch, or simply wrestling before bedtime. When I think of the kind of legacy I want to leave behind, it’s those moments—those priceless, irreplaceable memories—I hope my daughters remember.
As a parent, I’ve learned that actions speak louder than words. If I want my kids to prioritize family and health, I have to model it. That means showing up—whether it’s for their sporting events, bedtime stories, or family adventures. It’s also about teaching them how to care for themselves and others.
Kristen and I talk a lot about building core values for our girls early on. We want them to know the importance of kindness, gratitude, and putting family first. Family vacations are one of the ways we plan to make that happen. Exploring new places together not only gives us a chance to recharge, but it also creates those core memories I hope they’ll treasure long after they’ve outgrown their childhood bedrooms.
As a financial advisor, I talk with people every day about goals, priorities, and money.
I get it; financial security is important. But at the end of the day, you can’t take a luxury car or designer handbag with you. What you leave behind is the love you shared, the lessons you taught, and the memories you created.
Looking back, I realize my parents didn’t just teach me about responsibility and hard work—they showed me the priceless value of family. Now, with my own growing family, I feel a deep responsibility to pass those lessons along.
So, here’s my advice: Invest in experiences. Focus on your health and well-being as a family. Build memories that last. Because in the grand scheme of things, family is the greatest wealth you’ll ever have.
January 2025
